Comments on: Ask Sarita July: jealousy! http://blog.schoolofawakening.com/2010/07/ask-sarita-july-jealousy/ from Sarita and her team about their activities in the UK and abroad Tue, 28 Dec 2010 08:47:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: admin http://blog.schoolofawakening.com/2010/07/ask-sarita-july-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-749 admin Tue, 10 Aug 2010 11:13:20 +0000 http://blog.schoolofawakening.com/?p=652#comment-749 From Sarita: Dear Naman, What you are describing is an entanglement called 'projection.' It sounds like you are unsure of your own beauty, passion and love, and therefore, project these qualities onto the object of your infatuation. In your deep psyche, you are trying to vicariously live out those qualities you feel are missing in yourself, through the other. It is certain that you have the qualities inside yourself, but have simply not owned them, probably due to a childhood or young adult trauma. It is necessary to go within, and drop down into the original wound, feel the pain again, express what you couldn't say then, and in this way release the entangled energy. Once this knot has been liberated, you can then discover what you really need for healing and wholeness, and allow this to become embodied. This process is quite simple, and just takes some courage to allow yourself to drop down into the original wound in your psyche, and then embody the healing. Please try this, and if you still feel entangled when we next meet, speak to me about it and we can do a short session which can resolve it easily and naturally. It is good to remember, that our body / mind, is always trying to move towards the wholeness of love. You are of dazzling beauty, if you but know it. Allowing the release of stagnant patterns held within the subconscious helps us to move forward on our life path in a renewal of our divine splender. Love, Sarita From Sarita:

Dear Naman,

What you are describing is an entanglement called ‘projection.’ It sounds like you are unsure of your own beauty, passion and love, and therefore, project these qualities onto the object of your infatuation. In your deep psyche, you are trying to vicariously live out those qualities you feel are missing in yourself, through the other. It is certain that you have the qualities inside yourself, but have simply not owned them, probably due to a childhood or young adult trauma. It is necessary to go within, and drop down into the original wound, feel the pain again, express what you couldn’t say then, and in this way release the entangled energy. Once this knot has been liberated, you can then discover what you really need for healing and wholeness, and allow this to become embodied. This process is quite simple, and just takes some courage to allow yourself to drop down into the original wound in your psyche, and then embody the healing. Please try this, and if you still feel entangled when we next meet, speak to me about it and we can do a short session which can resolve it easily and naturally. It is good to remember, that our body / mind, is always trying to move towards the wholeness of love. You are of dazzling beauty, if you but know it.
Allowing the release of stagnant patterns held within the subconscious helps us to move forward on our life path in a renewal of our divine splender.

Love,

Sarita

]]> By: admin http://blog.schoolofawakening.com/2010/07/ask-sarita-july-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-684 admin Fri, 23 Jul 2010 10:57:08 +0000 http://blog.schoolofawakening.com/?p=652#comment-684 Hi Sw. Dev Naman - I've passed it onto Sarita for response - please look out for it on the blog. Love, Sidika Hi Sw. Dev Naman – I’ve passed it onto Sarita for response – please look out for it on the blog.

Love, Sidika

]]> By: Sw. Dev Naman http://blog.schoolofawakening.com/2010/07/ask-sarita-july-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-653 Sw. Dev Naman Mon, 12 Jul 2010 06:23:17 +0000 http://blog.schoolofawakening.com/?p=652#comment-653 Dear Ma Sarita, I had a wonderful experience of transformation in the last Tantra retreat with you at Nisarga. Earlier, I used to feel baffled by dazzling beauty in nature or in the opposite sex. Which, later, I came to handle more easily. Yet, jealousy has remained an unwanted partner in the most cherished relationships of mine. The strange phenomenon is, that if i am attracted to someone and 'want' her or 'feel love for', there is an inevitable stink of jealousy that spoils the prospects. Where as if there is a close relationship where there is no jealousy, i also do not feel the sexual desire not 'the strong pull of love' towards that person. Love and Jealousy seem to walk hand in hand, and i just do not know what to do to bring real joy, sharing and caring. Although, when jealousy arises, I try to become fully aware, but the throes of this energy just blinds me totally and i burst into an act which spoils the relationship. Sometimes, i try to just be with it, and take a step totally in contrast to my jealous mind. It does convert the energy into positive outcome too... yet, inside i reel in the fire of jealousy... leading to fear of losing and hopelessness. I feel i am no better than i ever was. My core desire is that of being loved totally and of being able to love that person totally, with all my heart, spirit and body... in which we may fuse together into one being... romantically, sexually and with tender caring towards the other. Strangely, when i start giving out my love totally, sometimes the other person turns around and misuses it taking it to be my weakness... that power-play simply puts me off and i feel highly dejected. I know one thing very clearly, unless i am able to resolve this desire and the accompanied feelings, I will not be able to achieve to 'dhayana'. Even catharsis and dynamic has not provided much relief. Please guide me Ma. Dear Ma Sarita,
I had a wonderful experience of transformation in the last Tantra retreat with you at Nisarga. Earlier, I used to feel baffled by dazzling beauty in nature or in the opposite sex. Which, later, I came to handle more easily.
Yet, jealousy has remained an unwanted partner in the most cherished relationships of mine. The strange phenomenon is, that if i am attracted to someone and ‘want’ her or ‘feel love for’, there is an inevitable stink of jealousy that spoils the prospects. Where as if there is a close relationship where there is no jealousy, i also do not feel the sexual desire not ‘the strong pull of love’ towards that person. Love and Jealousy seem to walk hand in hand, and i just do not know what to do to bring real joy, sharing and caring.
Although, when jealousy arises, I try to become fully aware, but the throes of this energy just blinds me totally and i burst into an act which spoils the relationship. Sometimes, i try to just be with it, and take a step totally in contrast to my jealous mind. It does convert the energy into positive outcome too… yet, inside i reel in the fire of jealousy… leading to fear of losing and hopelessness. I feel i am no better than i ever was.
My core desire is that of being loved totally and of being able to love that person totally, with all my heart, spirit and body… in which we may fuse together into one being… romantically, sexually and with tender caring towards the other.
Strangely, when i start giving out my love totally, sometimes the other person turns around and misuses it taking it to be my weakness… that power-play simply puts me off and i feel highly dejected.
I know one thing very clearly, unless i am able to resolve this desire and the accompanied feelings, I will not be able to achieve to ‘dhayana’. Even catharsis and dynamic has not provided much relief.
Please guide me Ma.

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